Emotional Turmoil
I see him when he can make time for me which is... not often. But, not often is better than... never?
More on the story of 62, someday... maybe.
Anyway, I was going to be hanging out with him in a few hours and I was counting the minutes to see his handsome face, talk, laugh, end up in his arms...
And then...
The text.
The text that lead to my emotional turmoil.
Football?!?!!?!?
I am going to have to watch football????
When I never get to see you and I just want your attention and to talk to you??
And FOOTBALL?????!!!
Spiral spiral spiral
I don't wanna watch football!!
Okay. Breathe. It is not the end of the world. You can handle this.
What do I say?
How do I respond??
No thanks? Rain check? Football? Really? Have you met me?
Sure, I'd love to? *eyeroll*
I mean, I am a busy gal. I have better things to do than sit on the couch and watch something that doesn't interest me.
Dilemma!
If I ask for a rain check... who knows when he'll be free again. Do I really want to lose an opportunity to spend time with him?
Also, what if I say no and ask for a rain check and then I am perceived as not flexible or easy going?
That would be worse than watching football. I was so inflexible when I was married and I ended up divorced. I don't want to make that mistake ever again.
Do you understand the gravity of this situation?!?!
After weighing all my options, as if any possible future with 62 and my entire character depended on it, I decided I could force myself to watch him watch football. I mean, he's pretty easy on the eyes. And at least I could be next to him. And just be on my phone...
Okay. Decision made. I can do this. See? I have matured! I am now flexible and easygoing!
My response:
In case you missed what I did there, here is the translation:
I like you enough to watch the game with you AND to google who is even playing. Please for the love of god like me back!!!
After work, I went for an exercise walk and, having made peace with my decision, I was again looking forward to seeing him so... I called him to tell him how excited I was.
And then...
Uh oh.
It happened again.
"Do you want to watch the game at your place or at a bar?"
OMG OMG OMG OMG OMG NOOOOOOOOOOOO
No, I don't want to spend three hours in a bar watching football.
OMG!! NO!!
Breathe Jennifer! Breathe! Think fast!
You'll figure out how to enjoy yourself - he'll probably be really fun and charming out and you can still watch him watch the game.
*Just remember your external charger. *
But, like, that is SO MANY HOURS at a barrrrrr.
OMG respond already!
"I'm fine with whatever you want to do."
Translation: SEE HOW EASY GOING AND FLEXIBLE I AM? FOR THE LOVE OF GOD WHY CAN YOU NOT JUST RETURN MY AFFECTION?
He said he'd think about it and text me his decision.
And then:
YASSSSSS!!!!
Perfect.
In the end, he showed up with groceries and we cooked together and then I snuggled up to him while he watched the game.
As usual, I felt blissful in his company.
At the end of the night?
He told me, "You're easy to get along with."
Talk about a validating compliment. *swoon*
...If he only knew how much emotional turmoil (and work) went into it.
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What do you do to get along with the ones you love? Tell me in the comments!
Ok, so I’m sure I’m missing something, and I’m sure you’ll correct me, but couldn’t you have just been open, honest and direct? “I’m looking forward to spending time together, but watching you watch football isn’t my idea of fun. Can we find a compromise?”
ReplyDeleteWhy should I ask him to compromise over something he really likes that wasn't going to kill me? What would the compromise be? Watch half the game? If this was a regular occurence, then, sure, a compromise would be necessary but this was one occurence. The point is, sometimes we just need to be flexible so they people we care about can have their way.
DeleteInstead of watching him watch football, watch football with him. You just might enjoy it. If you don't, let him know football is not for you. Next time pass on football and see how flexible he is.
ReplyDeleteDAD, you know I don't enjoy football. I don't need to reconfirm that. I read him your comment and asked him if we would have been flexible; what would he have said if I said I didn't want to watch. His response, "Okay... Close your eyes." <3
DeleteThank you for your comment Wildghilen. Very good points!
ReplyDeleteIf I were 62, I would have known before asking whether or not you like watching football or any other sport. They say the man should make the decision on what to do. I say both of you should make the decision on what to do. Sometimes you do what he likes and other times he does what you like. If it were me and I hadn't a friend that is a girl in a long time, I am Not watching football. We are hanging out together, talking, enjoying each other's company.
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